The Internet now occupies half of the global economy, and the”big men” of Internet companies have naturally become the focus of capital and topics.
Every year, the Internet Conference is a time for bigwigs to show their technical strength in the company, and it is also a time for bigwigs to gather together to imagine the future and exchange benefits.
Every year Ding Lei, Liu Qiangdong, Wang Xing and other Internet tycoons, they organize dinners, but recently In the past few years, no matter who organized the dinner, the Internet’s top boss Ma Yun was missing.
While other bigwigs are arguing, Mr. Ma may be drinking braised mutton noodles at a mutton noodle restaurant, or quietly tasting sauced beef in a homestay.
Some netizens joked that other bosses refused to call Boss Ma, so Boss Ma can only eat alone. Does the exclusion that usually happens to us also bother people like Boss Ma?
each of us
I have been isolated
Every one of us has encountered a situation of exclusion. Our colleagues have deliberately isolated us and threw a lot of”dirty work” to us. .
We not only pay the most labor, but also need to bear the greatest risk, because we will inevitably make mistakes when we work too much, and it is ourselves that make mistakes.
And this isolation is sometimes inexplicable. It may be due to one’s own mistakes, or just that we have more prominent abilities, or even the other party just doesn’t like the way we live .
Although we may not have done anything wrong, we do sometimes get isolated inexplicably, which can be regarded as”unexpected disaster” for us.
Because after being isolated, we will have a lot of difficult problems in the work process, such as colleagues’ non-cooperation and deliberate mischief, which will make us feel lost and painful.
So, why did Boss Ma, who was once the richest man, be isolated? Wouldn’t he feel the pain?
I will be isolated
No matter who he is, he may be isolated, even if he has huge wealth and countless followers. He can easily blend into any conflict.
In fact, the reason for being isolated, whether it is Boss Ma or ourselves, is the conflict of interest. The interests here cover many aspects.
Outstanding ability may make others jealous, and thus choose to isolate us to fight against us; too high moral standards may make those who are morally depraved feel dissatisfied, and thus believe that we are noble, so do everything possible Want to suppress us.
not to mention that there are more direct financial conflicts of interest, competing for the same position and developing In the same market, we may all be excluded and isolated by other colleagues, leaders, companies, and even industries.
The reason why Boss Ma is isolated has also surfaced. Careful friends will find that Boss Ma was born on the Internet, but he is not engaged in technical work. In daily friendship, Boss Ma is more Like to communicate with groups in the financial industry.
This completely different behavior from other Internet company bosses naturally makes other bosses feel like they can’t play together.
So the real situation is mostly that other big bosses sent out invitations, but Boss Ma politely declined, and then everyone was happy, which formed the situation we saw Boss Ma being”isolated”.
In the final analysis, there are only three possibilities for being isolated, one is because of being too good, one is because of being too disgusting, and the other is because of personal select.
01 is too Excellent
There are both cooperative and competitive relationships among colleagues in the workplace, and competition affects our fundamental purpose of entering the workplace:gaining benefits.
Many people often choose to forbearance temporarily when entering a new company. The reason for forbearance is to find out the relationship between interest groups in the company and reduce their sense of threat.
This is like war in ancient times. On the battlefield, if you have dozens of times more power than the opponent, you don’t need to think too much, just push all the way.
If one’s own power is on the weak side of the battlefield, you need to make distant and close attacks and form an interest group through alliances to ensure your own survival and Can get more benefits.
The same is true in the workplace. The less able people are, the more they like to report to the group for warmth. The reason why they report to the group for warmth is to cope with what the capable people treat them. The threat generated.
So, if a person has excellent abilities in the workplace and has conflicts of interest with other people, then it is easy to be isolated, which is why it is usually easy to occur within the department Isolation, and inter-departmental isolation rarely occurs for individuals.
If you are being isolated, don’t be happy too early, because there is another extreme person who is also easily isolated.
02 cited People dislike
Colleagues in the workplace come from all over the world and have different living habits. People with different habits are prone to friction when communicating, but fortunately, there are important issues in today’s society. Potential consensus for mutual compliance.
For example, if a colleague asks for leave, even if we really want to know why, we will tacitly stop asking because of a colleague’s sentence about something at home; for example, we never inquire , Forcing colleagues to talk about their emotional life.
These potential consensuses retain a basic sense of distance and boundaries between our colleagues, so that we can keep our secrets and defend everyone’s lives privacy.
However, some people do not perceive or agree with this consensus. There are always people who constantly ask about their colleagues’ emotional lives, or point fingers at their colleagues’ work and life.
There are also some people who cannot perceive the sense of boundaries, and ask colleagues to detour to send themselves home, or to constantly consult colleagues about work problems after work, or even Yu Ai’s endless harassment.
There are still some people who think they are not good enough, but think they are good enough. As long as there is a problem with the work, it is the responsibility of others. They clearly don’t do any work, but think they are themselves He is the hardest and most tired person in the company.
Many people are isolated because they are too disgusting.
What kind of person does Boss Ma belong to? Boss Ma is the kind of active choice to isolate, leaving the original social circle for development or personality reasons.
But many times, even if we are in a state of isolation, we have to continue working in the company and hope to complete the work as much as possible to reduce the impact of being isolated.
So, how do we solve the isolated state?
01 Excellent Go beyond, and disgust is improved.
For a group that is isolated because of excellence, there is no need to worry about this isolation at all, because the leader can distinguish which employees can really fight the”hard battle” of.
Similarly, there is a prerequisite for isolation caused by conflicts of interest within the department, that is, the two sides have the same status. We rarely see employees isolate leaders or bosses.
One reason is that employees do not have the ability and authority to isolate their superiors, and the other reason is that there is no conflict between the interests of the two parties and there is no isolation.
Therefore, for outstanding employees, isolation does not last long. Whether it is promotion or protection of leaders, outstanding employees will be exempted from isolation.
For those who are isolated due to disgusting behavior, the best way is to actively perceive the sense of boundary and potential consensus.
And this requires proactive daily replay, carefully figuring out the reaction and expression of the other person when you speak, so as to find out the defects in your words and behavior.
In fact, all isolation is very”ridiculous”, because the essence of isolation from others is a lack of self-confidence in oneself, which is already an act of showing weakness.
In”The Name of the People”, Sun Liancheng realized his own insignificance in the vast universe. Similarly, if we don’t confine ourselves to departments or even companies, then How does the isolation of others affect us?
After all, we do not yearn for the recognition of those”weak”, we do not rely on them, they are just a humble weed in our growth path.
So being isolated is nothing but for the weakChenMayfShake the tree, if the isolated person Without any trouble and influence, natural isolation cannot be sustained.
to be isolated is sometimes a good thing, we There is no need to give up our truly ambitious goals because of other people’s dissatisfaction and exclusion.
On the contrary, we have to pay the deepest pity to those who are isolated from the organization, because behind their tough appearance is a weak inferiority complex.